Can love be fun? Yes. It's called Friendship. Friendship is amazing in that it can be the highest form of love, even higher than marital sexual love. Since it has no relationship to sex, it's free to be between genders. The only barrier to this is our sex-obsessed culture.
A friend is another self but he's not a perfect copy. In fact, you can disagree on most things, but there is a mutual respect and care. A good friend is one who willingly desires what is best for you. If that sounds like the definition of love I constantly throw out, that's because it is with one added factor. Friendship is two people loving each other according to this pure definition.
A friend is one who desires for you to become the best you can be, and he'll do what he can to help you. This also means that a good friend will challenge you, but he will also celebrate with you in good times, and mourn with you during the bad times.
I tell you this to show that commitment to the Religion of True Love does not entail misery. In fact, hanging out and having a good time with friends is almost a requirement. Not only does it soothe your soul, but it increases the bond between you and your friend, making you even more capable to love. You can watch movies, play video games, have a good laugh, etc. As long as nothing you do attacks your love for your neighbor, you can do many things and have fun. When both friends are committed to the Religion of True Love, then it can be one of the greatest treasures on earth. The only thing that can destroy such a good friendship is the poison of selfishness.
Friendship is a beautiful thing as I've praised before. However, I've noticed that our culture has had trouble with helping people understand it. Having 1000 decent friends is not nearly as valuable as 1 good friend. In fact, it's very difficult to have such great love for more than 4 friends. You can have 1000 friends, but you probably will never have the deep relationship for more than 4 at a time, and that's okay. Another thing is that I've noticed in a few TV shows where they take a great friendship and make it sexual as if that is the goal and perfection. That is absolutely not the case. In fact, it can detract from it. Sex is an act of passion, but if you recall something I also constantly write about is that Love is an act of the will. Even when you are feeling hurt and angry at someone, love is something you can choose to do and that makes it the best thing in the world. It is influenced by the heart, but even when your heart doubts, your brain can prevent you from committing grievous acts that only cause harm.
An example of this is one time my wife and I were both feeling hurt. Something happened and we were both upset with each other. We did not want to be near or touch each other, but I knew this would only hurt our love. I knew that we needed to hug and talk, despite my heart saying no. However, my brain won with its argument that our love needed to be taken care of or it would be injured. The result is that we actually reached peace within 2 minutes versus a whole day of sulking with broken hearts. This also resulted in our love growing for each other rather than being damaged. Misunderstandings happen a lot, but love always seeks reconciliation as soon as possible, despite the protests of a sensitive heart. Friendship is a mutual love and it is fantastic!
With Love,
N. D. Moharo
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